If our faith is in Christ we have been made alive in him and we are radically different to the (dead) world around us. This new life in Christ is to have massive impact on our relationships with each other, so that they are shaped by and reflect the union we have with Jesus.
Presbyterian pastor Doug Wilson has just put a video up called “Obey Your Husband and Other Transgressive Ideas” that touches on the section in Ephesians dealing with husbands and wives. You can watch this 9 min video at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=96ht8JvawNo
Doug Wilson is also offering a free copy of the Kindle version of his book, “Reforming Marriage” at https://www.amazon.com/Reforming-Marriage-Douglas-Wilson-ebook/dp/B00243FKQK/